I am a big believer in encouraging you to bring ceremony into your life daily. “Be Ceremonial” is one of my catchphrases because I strongly believe that if you can stop and breathe in precious moments as they occur then you will feed your spirit and feel more alive. By being ceremonial you are setting intentions on the daily. This will help you to align with your purpose and values, bring you closer to what you want in life and enhance self discovery and growth.  Further down the page, I share some ideas about how you can be more ceremonial. 

I believe Ceremony is rooted in our DNA. For thousands of years, women have gathered at the kitchen table, around craft circles, church halls and fires. These have been places to give emotional support whether that be from the nourishment of food, to dance and sing, to hear stories, to share stories, to gain support and connection, to embrace nature’s cycles and to help one another mark life transitions. I am an advocate of bringing ceremony back to our lives one intention at a time even if it is in a more contemporary and modern way. Join the movement now and please reach out if you need guidance to begin your own journey to being ceremonial.

Firstly though I encourage you to look closely at the photo of the weaving I did as part of an assignment for the first module of my Life Celebrant Diploma. Our brief was to give a three-minute visual presentation about a ritual we grew up with, so I tapped into my creativity and crafted my story using different colours to express the significance of how the threads relate to my own experiences.  Doing this weaving enabled me to look at ways that ceremony played out in my life. I can’t help but think that if ceremony was around for me when I had challenging times my sense of identity could have been stronger while I learnt to navigate confusing milestones in my life.  This weaving now hangs in my bedroom and is a constant reminder to ‘Be Ceremonial’ every day.

Be Ceremonial

My Life Has Been A Tapestry of Rich & Royal Hue, An Everlasting Vision Of The Ever Changing View.”

Carole King

The threads of White represent the pureness, wisdom and authenticity of a newborn baby. Mum said my birth was traumatic and I can’t help but wonder if having a ceremony could have been empowering and healing for her.

Grey represents my childhood which on reflection felt void of special moments except the traditional birthday and Xmas celebrations.

Navy, nearly black represents transitioning into the teenage years and once again I can’t help but feel a ceremony could have been beneficial to help with the push/pull of a new identity.

Yellow is the colour of a new blossoming sisterhood that I felt as I started nursing. There was a lot of celebrating – often in unhealthy ways!

Orange is for the two years I travelled alone through Southeast Asia & India where I learnt about the richness of ceremony which ignited a spark of curiosity to explore what I felt deep inside.

Green represents the empowering feeling I gained when I returned to New Zealand; expanding my personal growth by studying Naturopathy, Counselling, Childbirth Education, Life Coaching and more recently Life Celebrant. Each modality reinforces the power of meaning, connection and love through ceremony.

Purple represents my deep diving into spirituality gained from the collective wisdom shared in the women’s ceremony circle that I started in 1982 and still running today.

I weaved celebrations within my own family. They were often nontraditional with a creative flair like my wedding for instance when I wore red and had two of my daughters present.

Pink signifies the love I have for my four beautiful daughters who each now use healthy and meaningful celebrations in their own lives in their distinct unique styles.

The Golden years signify freedom. There were lots of messy and magnificent midlife moments that were marked with beautiful celebrations.

All the Colourful strands of my life are woven into who I am now that I am in my sixties. There is a sense of pureness, wisdom and authenticity in my life again. It’s as if I have come full circle- come to life in a way that celebrates the core of who I am, so I can be of service to others. Having experienced the fullness of life’s rich tapestry, I now feel it’s a perfect time to step into what I believe is my destiny as a life celebrant.

Bookends of the Day

Start each morning and finish each day with being Ceremonial. Choose a special drink, meditate, journal, or walk, do anything that will bring your attention to being intentional.

Nature Nurtures

Once a day try and be with nature. It could be a walk on the beach, a moment to hug a tree or some bush breathes, take a moment to find wonder, let yourself feel AWE

Create an Altar

Once a week make an altar in a special place. You may light a candle, find objects from nature, put special symbols in place. An altar creates a space for focus and helps you to stay centered and grounded.

Park Bench Moments

Sit and take a breath in your busy day. Take a moment to rest and notice what you notice.